给儿子的信 (A letter to son)

心灵驿站
梁繼璋先生是香港一位名電臺節目主持人，也是一位兒童心理學導師。
這是梁繼璋寫給兒子的信；但看後，我覺得不只給兒子，其實可以適合所有人看!

我兒:
寫這備忘錄給你，基於三個原則：

(一）人生福禍無常，誰也不知可以活多久，有些事情還是早一點說好
(二）我是你的父親，我不跟你說，沒有人會跟你說
(三）這備忘錄裏記載的，都是我經過慘痛失敗得回來的體驗，可以為你的成長省回不少冤枉路。

以下，便是你在人生中要好好記住的事：
1.對你不好的人，你不要太介意: 在你一生中，沒有人有義務要對你好，除了我和你媽媽。至於那些對你好的人，你除了要珍惜、感恩外，也請多防備一點，因為，每個人做每件事，總有一個原因，他對你好，未必真的是因為喜歡你，請你必須搞清楚，而不必太快將對方看作真朋友

2.沒有人是不可代替，沒有東西是必須擁有:看透了這一點，將來你身邊的人不再要你，或許失去了世間上最愛的一切時，也應該明白，這並不是甚麼大不了的事

3.生命是短暫的，今日你還在浪費著生命，明日會發覺生命已遠離你了:因此，愈早珍惜生命，你享受生命的日子也愈多，與其盼望長壽，倒不如早點享受

4.世界上並沒有最愛這回事: 愛情只是一種霎時的感覺，而這感覺絕對會隨時日、心境而改變。如果你的所謂最愛離開你，請耐心地等候一下，讓時日慢慢沖洗，讓心靈慢慢沉澱，你的苦就會慢慢淡化。不要過分憧憬愛情的美，不要過分誇大失戀的悲

5.雖然，很多有成就的人士都未受過很多教育，但並不等如不用功讀書，就一定可以成功:你學到的知識，就是你擁有的武器!人，可以白手興家，但不可以手無寸鐵，緊記！

6.我不會要求你供養我下半輩子，同樣地我也不會供養你的下半輩子，當你長大到可以獨立的時候，我的責任已經完結:以後，你要坐巴士還是Benz，吃魚翅還是粉絲，都要自己負責

7.你可以要求自己守信，但不能要求別人守信，你可以要求自己對人好，但不能期待人家對你好: 你怎樣對人，並不代表人家就會怎樣對你，如果看不透這一點，你只會徒添不必要的煩惱

8.我買了十多二十年六合彩，還是一窮二白，連三獎也沒有中，這證明人要發達，還是要努力工作才可以，世界上並沒有免費午餐

9.親人只有一次的緣份，無論這輩子我和你會相處多久，也請好好珍惜共聚的時光，下輩子，無論愛與不愛，都不會再見

你的爸爸 梁繼璋



A letter to son
Mr. Liang Jizhang is the name of a Hong Kong radio show host and also a child psychology instructor.

Ji-Zhang Liang
This is a letter written to his son but look, I think not only to his son.In fact, it is suitable for all to see!

My son:
Writing this memo to you, based on three principles:

(A) the fortune or misfortune to impermanence of life, who know I can stay how long .... some things I need earlier tell you first.
(B) I am your father, If I not tell you, no one will tell you that.
(C) This memorandum is recorded and all I have to come back through the painful experience of failure so can let you can walk your life journey and less mistakes going on.

The following is that you are in life to be a good thing to remember:
1. people that treat you bad, you don't mind too much: In your lifetime, no one has an obligation to treat you good apart from me and your mother.
For those who treat you good, you are in addition to cherish, Thanksgiving but also need to prepare a bit because everyone does everything, there is always a reason. Please find out yourself rather than too fast to each other as true friends.

2. No one is irreplaceable, there is nothing must have:
seen through this point in the future you no longer tension you around, perhaps lost favorite of all time on earth but also should be aware that this is not a big deal.

3. Life is short, today you're a waste of life, tomorrow will find that life is far away from you.
So the sooner our cherish life, your life is also an occasion to enjoy more, instead of hoping for longevity, it is better to enjoy an early.

4. In the world and there is no such thing as favorite:
Love is only a feeling of an instant and this will definitely felt over time, mood change. If your so-called favorite to leave you, please be patient and wait and let time wash slowly, making you mind slowly settling, your pain will gradually diluted. Do not over look forward to love, do not over-exaggerate the lovelorn sadness.

5. Although many people have neither received a lot of achievements in education, but does not mean no need study hard, you will be a success:
You have learned is that you have a weapon! People could start from scratch, but does not may be defenseless, bear in mind!

6. I will not ask you to support me under the rest of my life and the same way I will not support your rest of my life, when you grow up enough to be independent of the time, my responsibility has already been completed.
In the future, you want to take the bus or the Benz, eating shark fin Or fans should responsible for your own.

7. You can ask your trustworthy but you can not ask others to that trustworthy.You can ask yourself to treat people good but you can not expect people to treat you good.
If the cannot see through it,you will only serve to stir unnecessary trouble.

8. I bought for almost two decades lottery and not even get three awards.
This references that must work hard only can get rich.There is no free lunch in the world.

9. The family loved got once only, either in this life to me and how long you will live, please treasure it because next life we may not together and love each other.

Your father Ji-Chang Liang